How are you getting on your new year’s resolutions? When we
are standing in the middle of February, I believe it is time to review our
performance and refresh our determination.
One of my positive characters is ‘persistence’ and I am
quite proud of it. Since I set up my new year’s resolutions and bucket lists
(see my previous blog). I have been trying hard to keep my promise (especially
with myself) and my strong determination has been a great help. There are tons
of reasons or excuses not to keep the promise but I just hate that I can be the
reason of the failure. If circumstance doesn’t allow me to keep my words,
I will need to accept the situation but I refuse to take that my laziness
or lack of commitment can be a cause of breaking the promise. So far, I have
been doing great and I am happy to continue my journey till the end of this
year. While consciously monitoring my process, I have found some helpful
actions in order to achieve my goals easier so I would like to share them with
you and hope they can help you to step closer to your goals, too.
1.
Set up realistic and achievable goals : Beside
of my determination, another reason that helps me to keep going is the scale of
my goals. My goals are neither gigantic nor fancy. They are realistic and
achievable. You need to know what you want to achieve and how to achieve them
before setting up the goals. If the goals are not realistic, they cannot be
achievable so start with small and simpler goals that can give you confidence
to move your first step. One of my New Year’s resolutions is completing 100
blogs in 2014. This blog will be my 81st blog so I can already see
the brightness that I will reach the goal. Goals are belonging to you to be
achieved not to others to be shown so they don’t need to be glamorous.
2.
Access and adjust goals if necessary : I have
always believed that nothing is permanent. Goals are not exceptional. Our
circumstances can be changed at any time so don’t be afraid of altering your
goals if necessary. If you try hard to keep the goal which is not realistically
achievable, you will get only stressed out and disappointed, and ended up
ignoring the goal. Access your goals regularly (at least monthly) and adjust
the goals as you need. Minimize the goal so that you can try to achieve is
always better than not having a goal. I have found that one of my goals,
‘Start up my own business’ can be bit hard to accomplish this year so I have
changed my focus onto preparation of starting up my own business. I am looking
into suitable on-line courses to study for the goal instead of being
disappointed by the current circumstance. I believe the most important part of
having goals is the journey of progressing not only the result.
3.
Set as many small goals as possible on the way :
One of Anthony (Tony) Robbins, an American life coach mentioned in his book
that our brain needs to practice more on making decisions and the best way is
making small goals as many as possible. I was bit reluctant to try his idea as
I thought too many goals would squeeze my neck and I would feel constantly
under the pressure. However, my concern was useless (as we always worry more
than necessary) and I was pleasantly surprised by the result. As many studies
show that we only use very limited part of our brain and potential, I could
squeeze in some more small goals and easily handle them with main goals. Such
as doing push-up 10 times every day, read at least one financial article every
day, create positive affirmations every week, spend at least 30 minutes for
painting etc… When you have a daily goal (almost like a small promise to
yourself) and complete the goal, you can feel priceless pleasure from the
achievement (It doesn’t matter whether it is big or small).
4.
Increase the limits : When you start feeling
that you are doing well with your goals, challenge yourself by increasing the
limits. I started doing push-up 10 times every morning and I have increased the
limit up to 25 times every day at the moment. It has changed from 10 to 15, 15
to 20 and 20 to 25. I have always had strong legs but not arms and chest so I
set up the goal and I can see that my upper body became stronger. You don’t
need to change or increase the limit every day or week or month if you are
happy with your progressing but for me it encourages me and makes me feel
better. You never know how much you can do more/better if you don’t push your
limit so it is worth to try.
5.
Share your goals with people : I know that it
can be awkward to show what your goals are and how your are managing them with
people around you but it is very helpful. Share your goals what you want to
achieve with your partner and close friends. When you share with them, your
goals are not only staying with yourself but also with others. You will be more
motivated to encouraged to reach your goals as you expressed and assured to
your loved ones what you want to achieve. Be involved into other’s goals and
discuss with them and encourage them to achieve. It will help to create
positive relationships. Write your goals on a paper and display where you can
see easily. That will remind and refresh you whenever you feel bit loose.
6.
Never late : There is no certain time for making
goals. If you didn’t have any chance to make New Year’s resolutions, today is
the time for a new start. Sit down and think about what you wish to achieve and
how you wish to live, and write down some goals. It will bring you a fresh hope
to your life. If you already set up some goals but you have been bit sluggish,
that is no problem as today is the day to refuel your tank to restart. Remember
that being late is always better never so start now.
After about a month, I will revisit this blog and review
myself how I have been doing again. I promise you that I will try to keep my
words. How about you?
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