10 tips to keep a healthy relationship

 

 

“I can’t believe my luck. I am so happy with you. You can’t believe how much I love you. Maybe, too much….”

 

“O…M…G….!!!! Who is talking this kind of gross stuff? Absolutely disgusting….”  I can already hear my teenager niece’s yelling if any chance she reads this blog. Hahaha… It’s my husband. My husband still keeps whispering these to me almost every day after 13 years of relationship. I am definitely on the right track, aren’t I? Am I showing off? Maybe… Yes, I am. Why can’t I show off and be proud of being in a wonderful relationship with my husband when big house, new luxurious cars, fancy clothes and well-paid jobs can be easily celebrated? Our current materialistic world makes us confident to be proud of what we possess or what we can buy, but we are still shy to show how great relationship we have with our partners. Isn’t it truly wonderful to have satisfied relationship with your loved ones? If you agree with me, you are ready to enjoy your wonderful life with your partner. 

 

These are 10 tips I would like to share with you to keep a healthy relationship.  These are working perfectly with me so, why not to you?

 

 

 

1.      Respect each other: You need to respect the difference between men and women. Not only men and women, we all are unique. We all think and act differently. So, don’t try to change the others to be a person like you. You need to respect what they think and how they behave and try to understand them as they are. You would never feel good if anyone tries to control over your thoughts and behaviours so, don’t do it to others. I promise you that it wouldn’t work anyway. Understanding and respecting is the first step toward to the harmonious relationship.

 

 

 

2.      Remember that no one is perfect: Have you been dreaming about Mr/Mrs Right? Did you think that your partner was Mr/Mrs Right then but not any more? ‘Right’ doesn’t mean ‘Perfect’ and no one can be perfect. Don’t expect that your partner would meet all your expectations or needs. We human are imperfect so our life is exciting and also challenging. How about you? Are you perfect? Love your partner’s weakness and imperfectness, and work on your relationships based on what you have rather than what you wish to have.

 

 

 

 

3.      Keep being attractive to each other: Keep your body and mind fit and healthy. Don’t ask your partner to love you when you don’t love yourself. Do you think your body and mind are still attractive to yourself, and to your partner? Very often, we are ‘Too’ relaxed with our relationships and expecting all will be as good as before (when we are not good as before.). Don’t neglect your body and mind. Keep your body healthy and fit and mind positive (no one can be happy with negative person). I know when you are happy with your body and mind, your partner will be even happier with you.

 

 

 

4.      Show the love: Tell your partner what you feel about him or her. There is no one doesn’t like compliments. We all are born to be loved and cherished. Show your love to your partner plenteously and constantly. Tell them how much you love them, what you like about them, how they look great, how much you enjoy being with them, etc… This will be the best investment in your life as it will give you the best return all the time. 

 

 

5.      Share goals and have a common goal: Everyone has their own life purpose and goals to achieve. Share with your partner about your dream and goals, and also try to get involved into your partner’s goals and what are their wishes. Having someone (especially loved ones) who can understand and support your dream can energise and brighten your life. Also, I highly recommend you to have common goals to do and support together. Quite often, we complain about lack of communication between partners especially when we are in a long term relationship. Having common goals can be very helpful to resolve this problem as you will share your thoughts and actions together to achieve the goals.

 

 

 

6.      Keep improve yourself: Do not stop improving yourself. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you need to stop developing or learning things for yourself. Even though you are in a same relationship with your partner, each of you is growing different speed and also different directions. The gap between you and your partner’s growth could become a problem to understand each other (also to respect each other). Share about your knowledge and interest with your partner and try to learn more about what your partner is interested in. I believe that a healthy relationship can be achieved when both parties grow together.

 

 

 

7.      Ready to compromise yourself: Manly of conflicts between couples can start by stubbornness. Becoming a couple from two persons requires fair volume of cooperation and adaptation. You need to open yourself to your partner’s opinions as much as you want your views to be accepted. Open conversation can be very helpful. You need to let your partner what is your thoughts and you also need to clearly understand what your partner’s thoughts are. A successful negotiation can be only made based on the clear understanding. One person cannot be a dictator and the other is a follower in a healthy relationship. Both needs to have their own opinions and also be ready to accept the other party’s opinions.

 

 

 

 

8.      Be rational:  I don’t believe that a relationship without disagreements can be a healthy relationship. We all need to argue time to time. Unfortunately, it is our human nature and we need to deal with it wisely. Try to be rational and avoid being emotional when you get into the arguments. Honestly, we women are more likely to be emotional when we have to deal with this. I know it is not easy but we need to try to be rational to control the situation better. Try to get some time to calm yourself and think about the outcomes you wish to achieve. You may realise that the problem was not that big as you thought.

 

 

 

9.      Travel together: Traveling together will definitely strengthen your relationship. Spending more time and having wonderful experiences together can create a strong connection between you and your partner. Daily routines and 9 to 5 working life very often loosen our feeling of affection to each other so we need to put an effort to refresh and tighten our loving feeling time to time. Travelling can be a very helpful solution. Sharing and remembering our unforgettable memories and experiences from our last 4.5 months trip together is unquestionably one of the biggest supports for our wonderful relationship.

 

 

 

 

10.   Talk more about sex: One of the funny things I cannot understand is people are getting shyer or lazier to talk about sex when they live together longer. Any reason, we intend to avoid expressing our sexual desires towards to our partners and dismiss the importance of communicating about sex. I admit that it is not a common topic to talk out louder but why not between you and your partner. Ring or text him or her and let them know how you feel. Being naughty to your partner sometimes. Trust me. It will surprisingly boost your relationship with your partner.

 

Am I doing all of these? Of course not… but I am aware of the importance of them and trying to get closer to ‘Well-done’ stage diligently. I believe that my husband is putting the same efforts to keep our relationship fit and healthy. Relationship is not one way business. Both of you need constantly work hard on keeping and maintaining the relationship healthy as the happy relationship can bring enormous pleasure to your life.